In our humanity, sometimes unity-pacification-freedom from dissension doesn’t or can’t exist with some individuals.
Attention is necessary to maintain a relationship – whether it is personal time, quick texts or note or maybe even that yearly Christmas letter. Connections are maintained through some sort of contact which is balanced.
Balance is needed. A relationship requires something that is two way. It can’t be one sided to be a true relationship. One of the best pieces of advice a mentor once gave me was to step back and wait. Value is shown by how one invests time – if that isn’t being pursued by both sides that relationship has a different value and meaning to each individual.
It’s okay to let a relationship be what it is. It’s okay to consider someone a friend yet they think of you as a co-worker or just a neighbor. It’s okay to have relationships in different circles at different levels at different depths.